Making time for the things that truly matter is of paramount importance in fostering a life rich in meaning and fulfillment. In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it's easy to become ensnared by the demands of work, social obligations, and digital distractions, inadvertently sidelining the activities and relationships that bring genuine joy and purpose. Time is an irretrievable resource, and once it slips away, it cannot be reclaimed. Recognizing the transient nature of life underscores the significance of deliberately allocating time to the people and pursuits that align with our values and aspirations. These moments of genuine connection, personal growth, and shared experiences constitute the fabric of a meaningful existence. Prioritizing the things that matter not only enhances our overall well-being but also contributes to a life narrative that is characterized by depth, authenticity, and a sense of accomplishment. In essence, making time for what truly matters is a conscious investment in the quality and substance of our lives, ensuring that our journey is marked by purpose and fulfillment rather than fleeting distractions and regrets.
Tim Urban does an amazing job at looking at his life in the context of moments (yes, this is the article I linked above) spent doing an array of things, going to Red Sox games, reading books, jumping into the ocean and eating dumplings. However, specific moments experience a notable decline over time, as he illustrates through the diminishing frequency of spending days with parents.
I understand there are many different variations of this concept based on individual relationships, proximity and health, but stay with me in the next example. Feel free to do your own math for your personal situation.
For instance, think about someone who currently sees their parents six times a year, equivalent to one weekend every other month. Contrast this with the pre-college era when daily interactions were the norm. Assuming the parents maintain good health and live into their 90s, the remaining days shared with them amount to a mere 360 days—total.
Reflect on that for a moment.
Six weekends (12 days) per year x 30 years = 360 days in total.
Now, compare this finite period to the extensive time spent with them during the initial 18 years of your life when you saw them nearly every day (7,000 days). The time shared with them before high school graduation constituted 95% of your total time with them throughout your life.
Presently, you find yourself in the last 5% of in-person interactions, a phase often referred to as the "tail end."
So what do we do with this (somewhat gloomy) information? We make the most of it.
Here are the three takeaways that Tim offers in his post:
Here are a few more ideas to add to that list:
- Schedule the time. We all know that if it isn't on the calendar, it probably won't happen. Set aside time with family and friends for trips and vacations in advance—you can always figure out the 'what and how' later.
- Choose activities you enjoy with those you cherish regularly. Things such as classes, season tickets, walks, book clubs or dates fall into this category. This ensures that precious time is locked in, providing both an opportunity for shared experiences and meaningful conversations.
- Put the phone away. The allure of notifications can be a common trap. Resist the urge, snap a few pictures, then set your device aside to truly be present. Direct engagement with life's moments has a more profound impact than experiencing them in a state of distraction.
- FaceTime, Zoom, and phone calls count. While you may not always be physically together, making an effort to connect virtually is the next best thing.
- Be mindful of your time together. Ask interesting questions, plan exciting activities, and don't hesitate to express your affection. Few reflect back on their lives and wish they had said 'I love you' less.
Bringing it Home:
As you navigate life, consider the significance of deliberately allocating time to the things and people that truly matter. Take time to recognize the finite nature of time, prioritize meaningful activities and relationships, and reflect on the transient nature of moments with loved ones. By doing so, you not only enrich your present but also cultivate a future marked by fulfillment, purpose, and a wealth of cherished memories.